Be Kind to Yourself

I’ve been coaching others to meet their fitness goals for a full decade and during these ten great years, I’ve had the pleasure of helping hundreds of people accomplish some pretty incredible things: run marathons, drop 50, 70, even 90 (!!!) lbs of body fat … even learn to walk and move again when they thought they once thought they could not. And yet, with all of the accomplishments each individual client has achieved. No matter how big or small … if you were to poll all of them to see how many were completely satisfied with their progress, I’m confident the number would be zero.

This is not to say that they weren’t thrilled with their progress, they absolutely were … But I think it is human nature to always want a little more.

“Ben, if I could just drop 40 lbs I’d be SO happy, that’s all I’d ever want!" Fast forward 40 pounds lighter … “Yeah, dropping that 40 pounds was great, but what I really want is to focus on is more definition in my legs, that would be perfect.” Fast forward leaner and more defined legs… “Okay, legs look awesome, but what I really need to focus on these arms …”

You see where this is going?

We do a great job of establishing what our goals are and we work hard to accomplish them, but no sooner are they accomplished then we are already focusing on the next project and potentially beating ourselves up for not being there already.

Whether your goals are to lose weight, to add weight, to get stronger, to get faster, to have more energy, or to just feel healthier, making the changes necessary to accomplish these goals are hard work. Not everyone will even succeed on their first try. So if you’ve accomplished a goal, before you begin to focus on the next goal to reach for, take a second to appreciate how far you’ve come. Give yourself a pat on the back for achieving what you have! … And, if you haven’t achieved your goal yet, that’s okay! Take inventory of the progress that you've made thus far, and appreciate the dedication you’ve already applied. Even if you tried and failed to meet your goal, realize that others have not yet even found the strength to try yet, and that the experience from your first attempt will only make your next effort that much more efficient.